With about 5 weeks of 2014 left to go I’m going to say 2 things:
Firstly, Christmas is terrifyingly close and I have only bought 2 presents. One of which is a stocking filler and therefore barely counts!
Secondly, thank you. 2014 has generally been a good and kind year for our family (she says crossing fingers and toes as there’s still that 5 weeks to go!).
So, here’s my top 5 reasons 2014 has been a great year – and the 1 crap thing that happened:
- HEALTH – Despite a year of all the usual coughs, colds and sickness bugs we are all (hopefully) healthy. I have been reminded this year, by the loss of family friends and acquaintances, that health (at any age) should not be taken for granted. I am making healthy choices a priority for the whole family and remembering to be grateful for these healthy, happy years.
- BABIES – No, not another one the way! I’m talking about my babies, who are now 7 and 2 years old! My youngest has grown into a proper little girl this year, she’s inquisitive, funny and so full of life.
Parenting a toddler isn’t always easy, but after experiencing how fast the time went with Amelia, I’m trying to slow down and enjoy this time, even the challenging days!
I can’t believe my eldest daughter is now 7. I’ve noticed some real changes in her this year. A tendency to less childish pursuits, an interest in music and boys (God help us all!). It’s not all been plain sailing, we’ve clashed quite a bit – the kind of petty arguments I thought were the reserve of teenagers! She is growing into a beautiful, funny and bright girl. We are so proud of her.
I’m both excited and nervous for the future, watching my little ones grow.
- BIRTHDAYS – My husband turned 40 this year. There’s something about the big 4-0 that makes me a bit nervous. It’s not the getting older – someone very wise once pointed out that there is no good alternative! It’s rather the limiting of time! However, these are my issues, my husband was fine about it all! As he told me, he’s in a good place in life so it’s not big deal. Quite. We celebrated with a surprise party (I’m rather proud to say he genuinely didn’t have a clue, and has just about forgiven us!). We then went to Paris for two nights, without the children – for any parents reading that means, yes, two mornings sleeping in past 7am – a truly decadent way to celebrate!! Happy Birthday Steve!
- DREAMS – It may have been said by some that I have a tendency to dream pretty big – most people do as life would be a bit dull if we didn’t. Some of my ideas are a bit too crazy, some just a little nuts and occasionally something comes along that is just about do-able! What started out as a vague dream has started to become a bit more concrete this year. We are considering a temporary move abroad. I say temporary because England, and more specifically York, is our home and we wouldn’t want to decamp completely. However, the idea of stepping outside our everyday is appealing. My parents live abroad and it would be nice to spend some time closer to them while the girls are young. We are lucky as our business, with some serious pre planning, could support a temporary stay abroad. So that is what we are doing at the moment, planning and seeing if the pieces will come together. I’ll keep you posted!
- CREATIVITY – One of my biggest goals for 2014 was to write the book that has been in my head for the last couple of years. – just to get it out on paper. I must admit I got a bit sidetracked by starting this blog but that hasn’t been a bad thing. Writing regularly and interacting with the fantastic community I have found has been the best thing I could have done this year. Writing about my experience of Stillbirth has been really good for me after years of silence, and hearing that my posts have reached others has been humbling. The book?…It is underway! I’m hoping I can juggle blog and book in 2015.
The one crap thing:
- SAYING GOODBYE – When I was 20 years old I very naively got a German Shepard Cross puppy on New Years Day. She cost £20 from a run down farm, she was adorable and we called her Molly.
Molly was my loyal friend for 13 years. She sat with me for untold hours as I cried into her fur over the loss of my son. We both survived on marmite and toast through my University years and she became the link to my past after I met Steve and we built our new family.
Watching her decline over the past couple of years was heartbreaking. The arthritis that I was warned would become a problem grew relentlessly and her body failed until it became clearly time to do the right thing. Let her go.
If you’re not an animal person it must be hard to understand how much they become part of the family. Molly had been with me nearly all my adult life and through so much – good and bad.
So, thank you Molly – doing the right thing was the hardest thing and certainly the saddest part of 2014.
Gratitude has played a big part of my year, realising that although elements of my life could do with improvement, I have found a lot of peace in slowing down and enjoying life for what it is. The girls are growing so quickly, I don’t want to miss any of it by racing from one thing to the next.
So, onward and upward – a lot of my 2015 goals will be the same as this year, be happy, write, keep everyone safe.
How was your 2014?