Finding Joy In 2015

 

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I really like new year resolutions but I haven’t actually made any this year – well not yet anyway.

I started to panic around January 1st that I didn’t have the time to set aside to get things nailed down, then I remembered it wasn’t actually a fixed deadline!

I’m usually really good at sitting down and writing out my bullet point list of  things I hope to achieve in any given year – last year was particularly successful. I’ve learnt to make my goals S.M.A.R.T (specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and timely)…it really does work.

So why no resolutions this year?

I actually intended to do my list as per usual but then I started thinking about this blog, more specifically why I started writing.

My tagline for this blog is parenting and finding joy in life after Stillbirth. Sometimes I wonder if the Stillbirth element sounds offputting, a little miserable even, but then I remember it’s my blog and it’s my truth (and reality) about finding joy in life after loss – it speaks to any loss really (we’ve all lost something or someone).

Today my life is in a pretty happy place with a lovely family, great friends and my writing. However, like everyone, I am the sum of my experiences – the death of my son (followed by the disintegration of my relationship and any stability I had at a fairly young age) has had a lasting effect on my adult life, and subsequent relationships/parenting.

I have found so much happiness within my family but joy is something slightly different:

Joy is the spark.

Joy is the burst of laughter.

Joy is the exhilaration.

Joy is in the rush of life.

Joy is something you have to look for sometimes – whatever your circumstances.

If happiness comes from the love of your relationships, children, work or surroundings then I think joy comes from your actions and experiences.

Losing my son when I was only 21 made me fearful and fragile. As I rebuilt and returned to happiness in my new life I found I had to make the effort to capture the sort of joy that comes from actions and experience. I had to learn to recognise these moments for what they were and build them back into my life.

A while ago I read The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin – everyone who reads this book seems to love it – the account of a woman’s personal search for greater happiness in her everyday life. As Gretchen herself says ‘the days are long, but the years are short’. My thoughts exactly. I took a great deal from reading about Gretchen’s experience and as my thoughts turned to resolutions one thing in particular sprung to mind; I felt really inspired by the way Gretchen tackles a different aspect of her search each month for the year of the project.

As I mentioned earlier, I do like to make S.M.A.R.T goals and this method (of planning monthly goals for the year) fits very well.

So that’s where Joy and Pops is heading this year – I’m making it all about the actions and experience of finding joy in 2015.

My next post will detail exactly how that will look but hopefully it will have a positive effect on my life and also put a few ideas out there for others.

Here’s to a very happy 2015!

Xx

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10 Comments on Finding Joy In 2015

  1. bodfortea@gmail.com'
    Michelle Reeves (Bod for tea)
    8th January 2015 at 5:00 pm (3 years ago)

    This resonates SO much with me! I’m also on a journey to joy this year – posted about my journey yesterday – and can’t wait to read your posts too. I’ll be writing about the books that have inspired me – perhaps we can inspire each other! Here’s to an amazing 2015 for us all #brilliantblogposts

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    • Claire
      8th January 2015 at 8:40 pm (3 years ago)

      I’m so glad our posts found each other!
      I really enjoyed reading yours – I’m really looking forward to hearing how you get on, especially with the books you’ve found (I could do with some reading inspiration!)
      Happy 2015!
      Xx

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  2. spidermummy@hotmail.com'
    Spidermummy
    9th January 2015 at 10:04 pm (3 years ago)

    You are the second person this week to speak highly of the Happiness Project. I think I’m going to go and order it for my kindle right now!!! Happy New Year lovely xx

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    • Claire
      11th January 2015 at 3:16 pm (3 years ago)

      You really should – it’s a great, easy read with some really good ideas!
      Happy New Year!
      Xx

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  3. Mum@honestmum.com'
    Honest mum
    11th January 2015 at 1:19 am (3 years ago)

    Such an inspiring post. I want to read that book, on the list. Thanks for linking up to #brilliantblogposts x

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    • Claire
      11th January 2015 at 3:19 pm (3 years ago)

      Thank you so much!
      It really is a great book – very easy to read and relate to.
      Xx

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    Stephanie
    11th January 2015 at 2:16 pm (3 years ago)

    Good luck for 2015 #pocolo

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    • Claire
      11th January 2015 at 3:20 pm (3 years ago)

      Thank you – Happy New Year!
      Xx

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  5. vickywelton@hotmail.com'
    Verily Victoria Vocalises
    11th January 2015 at 3:03 pm (3 years ago)

    Such a great post – and I love the SMART idea, I definitely need to put that into practice. Wishing you a New Year full of joy. Thank you for linking to #PoCoLo :) x

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    • Claire
      11th January 2015 at 3:22 pm (3 years ago)

      Thank you – I’m trying to make it all about putting things into practise this year!
      Hope you have a great year too – Happy New Year!
      Xx

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